A Side of Shayracha

It's amazing that I actually have to remind people this but: skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming . Body shaming of ANY kind of body is bad. It's naive and ignorant to pretend it isn't. Every body is unique. That's a fact to be celebrated, in my opinion, but apparently in society it's a bad thing; we don't all fit into a perfect cookie cutter shape. Some people are naturally big .. some people are naturally thin. There is no shame in either of these facts, but there is a lot of shame in how society treats each of them.  Telling a thin woman to "eat a sandwich" is just as offensive as telling a bigger woman to "put the sandwich down."  Telling a skinny woman things like "bones are for dogs" and "real men like curves" is rude and cruel. Trying to tell women with natural thigh gaps that it means their vagina is "loose" (it's surrounded by fucking muscle, by the way. Muscles can be toned ev

Glorifying Obesity. Fat people being happy and existing in the public eye without shame is now called glorifying obesity. If you are a fat person who doesn't hate themselves, you're glorifying obesity. If you are overweight and aren't on a strict diet of lettuce and working out every single day, you're glorifying obesity. Fat people, who have decided that no, they don't have to hate themselves or hide away or apologize for existing, are GLORIFYING OBESITY.  Does anyone else truly understand how ignorant that entire idea is? Fat people who aren't ashamed of themselves aren't prancing around going "Admire me, for I am wonderful! Aspire to be exactly like me!" They aren't telling small children to stuff their faces and gain as much weight as possible. They aren't telling ANYONE "be like me, look like me!" No, they're going "Hey, I'm fat. And I deserve common decency too. I deserve to go out in public and not b

Lane Bryant recently launched a campaign called "Plus is Equal." On the surface, it's a seems like a spectacular thing, a company who caters to plus size women calling for body diversity in the media...what could be wrong about that? (Before anyone wants to go "promoting obesity" I'd like to extend the warmest possible fuck you to you and tell you that fat people existing promotes nothing except their right to exist.) I, as a plus size woman, do believe that plus is equal. I'm a human, just like every other various sized human out there, and we ALL deserve some common decency and a good level of respect. Skinny shaming is just as wrong as fat shaming, telling a skinny person to put down a cheeseburger is just as offensive as telling a fat person to put theirs down.  Basically, I'm not an asshole and don't believe others should be assholes either. But, upon looking closer at "Plus is Equal" I have to question if Lane Bryant actu

Personal boundaries... some of us feel selfish for putting them into place; I personally still feel like a jerk most of the time when I vocalize my boundaries to people who are toeing the line to crossing them, but despite these feelings it's important to recognize just how needed boundaries are. Many of us have been affected by the "disease to please", we're scared of disappointing people and just want to help them or not be hated. This leads us to making ourselves uncomfortable and sacrificing our own self care to care for others. I want to remind everyone that there's no shame in having personal boundaries. You're not a bad person for setting boundaries for yourself, it's actually a huge part of self care. What you allow to happen is what will continue, so if someone's actions or words make you uncomfortable: speak up! You are not selfish.  You are instead, caring for yourself. There's a difference between the two, no  matter what someone e

Let me just start by saying, I'm really sick and tired of women being accused of being either "too sensitive", a "bitch", or god forbid a "Femnazi" when we assert ourselves as something more than a doormat. If a woman points out something sexist that you've said, that's not her being overly sensitive or anything besides being tired of the shit we constantly face. I don't think many people actually understand the microaggressions that women and even young girls are faced with every, single day. Ever since we were young we've heard a variety of things that make it seem like being a woman is a bad thing. For example: "You throw like a girl." "Don't be such a pussy." "You're acting like such a bitch." Women who sleep around are called sluts or whores. Men who sleep around get high fives and are called players; because making a conquest of a woman is a game. Usually, women are shamed for losi