A Side of Shayracha

Just to make this clear: if you hop onto a post about women's issues; from body shaming to sexism, to slut shaming and go "BUT MEN ______" or "NOT ALL MEN!!!" you are not helping. You are part of the problem. Yes. Men have issues too. Yes, we can acknowledge those issues. But no, they are not on the same level. And no, they shouldn't be brought up when women are openly talking about what they face every single day. For example: I made a post about slut/ sex shaming. In that post I spoke about how women who enjoy casual sex are shamed and women who don't  have sex are also shamed. I said that clothing is not consent, no matter what the person is wearing. I made sure to point out there is nothing wrong with enjoying casual sex, just like there's nothing wrong with enjoying monogamy. Or abstinence. Or any other legal sexual preference. However, there is everything wrong with shaming people and assuming that know their private actions based on wh...

 PCOS.. what is it? It's Polycystic Ovary Syndrome . In it's simplest form it's an endocrine system disorder that causes hormonal imbalances that, to be frank, fuck shit up. It isn't curable, but it is manageable. This is me. In a public bathroom because I'm classy. I have PCOS. You will notice, I am fat . I carry most of my weight in my midsection, which is typical for people with this disease. Most of the other physical issues PCOS cause (hair loss, excessive hair on face/body, oily skin, acne) are easily covered or treated... the fat is most noticeable to people. Because of how our society views fat people, it's vilified. People see fat and automatically assume "fat and lazy." That however, isn't the case for most women with PCOS. (Or, fat people in general, but that's a topic for another day.) PCOS fat is contributed to by Insulin Resistance . Which means while our body does produce insulin, it doesn't process it like it'...

Health concern trolls, the little angels of the internet. Those who don't hate fat people, they just want everyone to be healthy ! (To them though, healthy is synonymous to skinny; ignoring every other health concern to mankind except obesity.) People who smoke? It's their body! Those who drink often? Their body! Casual drug users? Their body, they're just experimenting. Skinny people who aren't eating "right?" Well that's okay, everyone indulges! Except fat people. Any fat person, no matter how they eat or how much they move: fat is bad . Fat isn't okay, fat is unhealthy! Fat people are a plague on healthcare systems (which in America is laughable seeing we don't have universal healthcare and our care comes from our own pockets or premiums we pay for.) Fat people don't get the "it's their body" treatment. Concern trolls care. "It's science" they say, but it isn't. It's prejudice.  They don't care a...

"No." That is a complete sentence.  It doesn't matter what someone is asking of you, no is a complete sentence and answer. You don't have to explain yourself of why it is no, you don't have to negotiate to compromise to another person's wishes.. no is good enough. No is making your answer and your wishes clear.  No isn't open to negotiation.  You don't have to justify you saying no to someones requests or demands. You should never be pressured into doing something you don't want to do. No matter if it's a big deal or something simple,  if you don't want to do it you don't have to do it.  You should never be forced or coerced into turning a solid no into an unwanted yes.  A yes by coercion isn't a yes at all. Saying no isn't "playing hard to get." Saying no isn't the same thing as saying "convince me." No is no. It is complete on it's own. "No." That is enough. Don't be h...

I am not a "good" fat person. I used to be a good fat person, but I'm not anymore. I'm a bad fat person. A good fat person, covers up. Not because they want , but because they feel they have to. A good fat person feels shame about themselves. They are ashamed of themselves, some of them hate themselves. Some of them do dangerous things to change their fat, to be the good fatty. They not only diet and exercise, but do it to extreme amounts that it's not healthy anymore. They starve their bodies, they put their body through hell... to try and be a good fatty. A good fat person tries to hide their size. They shrink back as much as they can, try to exist as little as they can, in as little space as they possible can. A good fat person apologizes... they apologize just for existing. For being alive. For taking up space. Good fat people apologize. I'm not a good fat person. I'm a bad fat person. I'm the fat person that will NOT apologize. I also won...

It's amazing that I actually have to remind people this but: skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming . Body shaming of ANY kind of body is bad. It's naive and ignorant to pretend it isn't. Every body is unique. That's a fact to be celebrated, in my opinion, but apparently in society it's a bad thing; we don't all fit into a perfect cookie cutter shape. Some people are naturally big .. some people are naturally thin. There is no shame in either of these facts, but there is a lot of shame in how society treats each of them.  Telling a thin woman to "eat a sandwich" is just as offensive as telling a bigger woman to "put the sandwich down."  Telling a skinny woman things like "bones are for dogs" and "real men like curves" is rude and cruel. Trying to tell women with natural thigh gaps that it means their vagina is "loose" (it's surrounded by fucking muscle, by the way. Muscles can be toned ev...